Dear Bun

The dreaded Bun….oh how I love you and hate you at the same time.  You made an appearance a few times before Harper’s grand entrance, but your official debut and grand opening occurred on day 3 in my stay at the hospital and you are still going strong.  You are NOT pretty, yet unless I have somewhere “real” to go, I can’t fight the urge to wear you. I did it with the older girls the first time I was on maternity leave and this time is no different.  As ugly as you are, I keep going back to you.  But with no make-up and 20 pounds still to lose, you are not helping me out one bit.  Please know that I have made a haircut appointment for September 28 so you will continue to get some love for 2 more weeks (although my goal is to a lesser extent) but come September 28, we must part our ways.  Bun it has been real, but I must say goodbye now.

The Bun leaving the hospital…

Late night nursing with the Bun…

The Bun going for a walk with Harper….

The Bun and the girls at Lake Anne’s Farmers Market….

The Bun made it’s way to our first family photo of five…

The Bun and the girls individually because they wouldn’t sit still at our monthly family Infant and Toddler Connection therapy session…

We then tried for a family shot which didn’t work out so well, but at least we captured the dreaded Bun!

And here we are out to eat at a restaurant with the Bun….so I guess the Bun really has been going real places:(

If these pictures aren’t fuel to say goodbye, then I don’t know what is!  Adios Bun!

A Bit of Everything

Usually when I sit down to write a blog post, I know exactly what my topic is going to be.  This time…not so much.  I know it is time to write a post and that is about it so I expect this to be a smorgasbord of topics. 

Harper is still such a good baby….honestly from her temperament to her feeding and sleeping schedule, she is awesome.  She has never had her days or nights confused and basically only wakens for one feeding.  I usually last nurse her around 11:30, nurse her again about 4:00 or 5:00 and then not again until 7:00ish….not bad for 4 weeks old!  She certainly does make up for it during the day as she nurses almost every 2 hours much of the day; however, she takes 10 minutes or less on average to nurse so I can’t complain.  We’re still working on her birth announcement (sigh) but should hopefully have it finalized this weekend.  I purchased some bows from Amazon last week and was happy with the way the pictures turned out….not sure why we can’t figure out this birth announcement thing.   Here are some of our favorite pictures from the past month. These first pictures Harper was only 5 days old….hard to believe as she looks older than that!

Almost 2 weeks old wearing a beautiful outfit and bonnet made by Gigi’s cousin Joyce. 

Guess Harper didn’t like it that much….

Almost 3 weeks old….wearing a pretty bow given to her by Uncle Russell, Aunt Mary, and cousins Michael and Caroline….

Still almost 3 weeks old here…

3 1/2 weeks old….bows courtesy of Mommy…

Harper fits into our family so perfectly.  We haven’t really let having a new baby keep us from our “normal” routine.  We still try to get out as much as we can.  At Meadowlark….

At home….playing…

At home…napping…

We’ve also had a few people visit us including Elisha (my best friend from growing up) and her 6 month old daughter Ella.  Elisha is my oldest friend…we have been friends since we were age 2!  At home with friends….

These pictures crack me up especially of Emerson.  First of all Avery and Emerson had just had a bath and Ana parted Emerson’s hair on the right side which I think looks odd on her.  Secondly, she wouldn’t smile which is quite contrary to her typical cheese face that she displays the majority of time for pictures.  The night before my parent’s had their pool closed and while the two men were closing the pool, the ice cream man came by and one of the men bought the girls shaved ice.  It was practically melted before they started and it was blue.  What was I to do but to quickly strip their shirts off, put on a bib, and let them dig in.

There you have it my friends….a selection of Emerson’s cheese faces. 

This upcoming weekend is my birthday.  The weather is supposed to be beautiful.  I’m looking forward to a fun filled weekend with my family! 

Baby Harper

Baby Harper as we like to call her is 3 weeks old already!  Part of me wishes she would stay 2 weeks for just a little longer.  I liked the thought of knowing that I still had 10 weeks of maternity leave remaining but as each she ages each week, I can’t help but to think that is one less week at home with my baby girl.  And now I am into the single digits of maternity leave remaining but I am trying not to think about it that way.  I have really enjoyed being able to spend extra time with the girls as well.  On days that Ana is here I hang out with them a little but not too much because I not only want their routine to be as normal as before baby Harper but also, I want to use it as an opportunity to get as much done as possible while only having the responsibility of baby Harper to care for.  On days that my mom watches the girls, we are trying to do fun things with the girls.  This past Friday we ventured out to the mall with all three girls. We took them out for lunch at Nordstrom’s Cafe and then went shoe shopping for the girls.  As my mom pushed the double stroller and me the single stroller, I couldn’t believe that I was a mom to these three kids….wow, that happened quickly!  Harper is such a good baby and the day was quite fun.  We were out for about 4 hours.  The hardest part was probably getting the girls in and out of the car along with the strollers and unfortunately the bulk of that task fell to my mom as I am unable to lift anything heavier than Harper for 3 more weeks.  This Thursday we are taking the girls to the library in the afternoon.  Harper will likely sleep right through it and even if she is up as long as I feed her before hand, I’m sure she will be well behaved.

Harper is such a good baby though.  She cries very little…only if she gets very hungry and as soon as I feed her she stops.  She is a good sleeper at night as well.  I mean she certainly nurses during the night but I feel like I wake her up more than she wakes me up to eat. The past two nights she has had two 4 1/2 stretches which I think is really good at this age.  Unfortunately, I’m also pumping some due to several clogged milk ducts already so while my sleep is WAY better than it was with the girls but not as good as it sounds since I’m the only one caring for Harper during the nights (with the girls I had help from Justin the first 3 weeks and my mom once or twice a week for the first 3 months). Justin and I joke about how easy it is to have one, but I am very aware to the fact that it probably isn’t so much a quantity issue as it is to Harper just being an awesome baby.  She is thriving…in fact, she weighed 9.6 lbs at her 2 week check up (the goal is of a baby to gain their birthweight back by their 2 week check up).  We’ve taken a decent amount of pictures of Harper in the hopes of finding that perfect picture for an announcement.  We still haven’t found it yet but as soon as I do, I’ll post some more recent pictures of Harper’s photo sessions, which generally occur in the evenings after the girls have gone to bed.
The girls overall are really enjoying Harper.  They call her Baby Harper which is why the name has stuck. They have had a few more temper tantrums lately than normal; it is hard to say if it is a reaction to their new baby sister, a result of them having a slight stomach bug/fever the past few days or simply a result of the approaching terrible two’s.  Whatever the reason, they really do love her most the time!
See….proof!

Harper Is Here

Our beautiful Harper Paige arrived one week ago today.  Here we are settled at home and she is already 1 week old!  The pregnancy although slow some days especially towards the end as it became harder and harder to do things went by very quickly.  I really wasn’t nervous about delivery until the night before.  Once dinner was over and my food restrictions for the cesarean started, was when the idea of surgery and this baby being taken out of my belly really started to feel completely real.  The surgery and the recovery this time around was very different in a lot of aspects from two years ago when I had the girls.  Starting with the time I was actually in the operating room, I was completely out out it this time.  I kept falling asleep during the procedure and all day long I couldn’t keep my eyes open for the life of me.  The first delivery I knew exactly what was going on and was so into everything including wanting lots of pictures to document that first day.  This time not only could I not keep my eyes open for pictures, but also I was SO swollen and puffy that I didn’t want my picture taken.  The IV’s and the meds were not kind to me this time.  Regardless, I delivered a beautiful baby girl who weighed a whopping 9 lbs and measured 21 inches!  We were expecting big but closer to the 8.5 pound range and certainly not 21 inches.  She also had a full head of dark hair, which I shouldn’t have been surprised about considering I too was also born with a full head of dark hair; however, we were surprised because the girls didn’t have a ton and since no technician ever mentioned her hair in a sonogram as they did over and over again for Emerson, I think Justin and I were both expecting a bald baby.  Here are some of our favorites of our beautiful baby girl. 

This time around I think the recovery from the C-section in the hospital was a little easier.  I don’t know if it was I knew what to expect or if the pain really just wasn’t as bad this time.  I tend to think the latter but it was realistically probably a combination of both.  The nursing staff was better this time around than the first and I definitely got out of bed a little quicker this time and was using the bathroom on my own and walking the hospital hall ways much quicker on my own this time around as well.  We also only stayed at the hospital two nights this time versus three the last and even the last time we considered staying a fourth night.  
This time we were ready to go home and felt I would be more comfortable and get more rest at home since people are always coming and going in the hospital room.  This time around we also put Harper in the nursery twice each night we were there allowing us to get a little more sleep than the first time.  And doing so did not affect her feeding.  Harper took to the breast right away in the recovery room which I was very happy about because neither the girls did and part of me thought the chance for recurrence was high.  Either the staff brought Harper back when she was hungry or Justin would go pick her up in the nursery. 
 
The girls came to visit twice when while we were there.  My parents brought them the first afternoon and they each gave Harper a lovey.  In return Harper gave them each a big sister book.  Avery took to Harper right away; Emerson was a bit more hesitant….exactly as we all expected.  The girls came again Tuesday morning with my mom and again briefly in the afternoon with Justin and my dad.  Justin went home with the girls for a few hours while my mom stayed with me in the hospital for a few hours before Justin and the older girls returned to the hospital.  Once again Avery couldn’t stop loving on Harper and Emerson while still somewhat hesitant started to want to participate a little more.  Here are Avery and Emerson getting ready to take pictures with baby Harper.

Late Wednesday we brought Harper home!  

Where as I think I was pretty overwhelmed with bringing the girls home, I was super excited about bringing Harper home to join our family. The first night she slept decently and pretty much has most nights since.  I certainly get up to nurse her every few hours but she nurses very quickly and goes right back to sleep, something neither girl did.  I am strictly nursing her which is quite different than bottle feeding expressed milk to the girls.  Even though I did nurse the girls some later on I still pumped so I constantly knew how much my output was, how much the girls input was, and my breasts were always emptied regularly.  Often Harper only nurses on one side since she nurses so quickly.  I know she is getting enough because of how much she pees and poops but I can’t help but feeling like I want more to come out of my boobs partially for relief and partially because I am scared it will affect my supply.  That is something that I am going to have to mentally work out in my head.  

Believe it or not we are already feeling fairly settled in.  Justin had to go back to work today, which neither of us were looking forward to.  It certainly helps having my parent’s help, but it certainly also helps in the difficulty factor having one baby versus two. 
 
We’ve had a few photo sessions since we have been home.  Here are some of our favorites thus far. 
We are so happy to welcome Harper Paige and become a family of five!

Avery and Emerson Are TWO!

This weekend the girls celebrated their 2nd birthday.  It’s hard to believe that they are already 2!  It feels like I was just on bed rest getting ready to have these girls and here I am 38 weeks pregnant about to have another.  

Last year we had a big rubber duck theme 1st birthday party that I spent months in advance planning and buying rubber duck theme everything.   This year as much as I wanted to have a party for the girls, Justin and I decided it was probably not the best idea to have one incase I had the baby early or in the event I didn’t, I would be 38 weeks pregnant and even if I intended on a small party, we both knew I would end up going overboard.  So we decided we would just celebrate as a family.  UNTIL…a week before their birthday, I started feeling somewhat guilty and wishing that we were doing something SO 6 days before the Saturday of their birthday weekend, we invited 4 of our family friends with kids over for a low key brunch celebration.  Two of the families couldn’t attend so it ended up just being the Brophy’s and the Niday’s in addition to my parents and two elementary school aged girls from the neighborhood, which actually turned out great.  The Brophy’s were the first to arrive followed by the Nidays.  We took some pictures of the men followed by some pictures of the ladies. 

Followed by some family shots…YES, I AM HUGE…

We ate quiche from Pie Gourmet, chicken nuggets from Chic Fil A, and fruit salad made by mommy. Next we sang Happy Birthday and the girls blew out the candles on their princess cake.  

Then we opened presents.  They received princess dolls with matching princess outfits and play food for their kitchen, all of which they LOVED! 

Sunday was their actual birthday and we started the birthday celebration with gifts.  When the girls came down the stairs, their baby doll high chair and baby doll cradle (gifts from my parent’s awaited them). 

They had fun playing with them for a little bit before Emerson headed to the family room to get a new diaper when she noticed the tent and tunnel birthday present from Mommy and Daddy.  Avery was quick to follow in her direction and the both of them had a great time exploring their new tunnel and tent. 

After playing with our gifts for a little bit, the girls ate breakfast and got dressed, and then we headed to Kid Junction with Grandma and Grandpa.  It was like a mini version of the Children’s Museum in Baltimore. The girls first played in the Pizza Parlor. 

Next they made their way to the grocery store where they had a great time shopping!

Then they made their way to the slide area where first they were in the little kid play area but it wasn’t long before they wanted to check out the big slides so Daddy stepped up to the occasion and was chasing both the girls around the same time. 

Emerson also tried out one of the token rides and was petrified but she held on the entire ride and made it through without a tear.  Avery didn’t want any part of it. 

After spending a second round shopping in the grocery store, we took the girls to Bonefish Grill for lunch.  The girls were pretty tired and each one of them had to be taken out of the restaurant for a few minutes at one point during the lunch, which was actually a first for us. After lunch, the girls sat on the bench with grandma and grandpa and took a few pictures.

I think we all took a birthday nap when we got home and then when the girls woke we had round two of presents.  My parents gave the girls pots/pans and dishes for their play kitchen.  Justin and I gave the girls a doll doctor play kit and doll accessories.  Then we had our second cake for the weekend, an ice cream cake from Cold Stone. 

We really did celebrate all weekend long and Mommy even continued the celebration each night for a few days until the leftover Princess Cake was gone.  The girls really did have a great birthday weekend.  I still can’t believe their 2!  And to think next year, which will likely be here before we know it, will likely be a joint birthday party for two 3 year old and one 1 year old!

American Nystagmus Network Conference

The weekend of July 12 Justin flew to Orlando, Florida to attend the American Nystagmus Network (ANN) Conference.  The conference is held in various locations every other year and a few months ago we decided Justin would attend solo this year on behalf of our family as I would be 8 months pregnant at the time.  Justin was only 1 of 3 attendees who attended solo and while he said there were some awkward moments, he definitely thought the conference was well worth it and came home feeling encouraged.  The conference started Friday evening with a breakout session.  Justin attended the one for parents of kids with nystagmus followed by a dinner event which was really just networking for a few hours.  Saturday morning started with Dr. Hertle as the Key Note speaker via Skype followed by three breakout sessions throughout the day and again a networking hour in the late afternoon.  The breakout sessions were all excellent topics and we wish Justin had been able to attend all of them.  However, choices had to be made so we decided it would be best for Justin to attend the Everyday Living With Nystagmus, Building Confidence in Children, and Teen Panel sessions.  Justin took good notes even though I wasn’t able to attend, I felt that our whole family did and really will benefit from Justin’s attendance at the conference.  Justin got a chance to meet others with nystagmus and parents of children with nystagmus.  He even came across two sets of twins where one twin had nystagmus and the other did not.  He got to hear first hand the personal experiences of children with nystagmus and their parents.  Justin was really encouraged to hear and see that most the children really did thrive.  Yes, nystagmus is a challenge but it is not a limitation, just a challenge and ALL kids have challenges in some shape or form.  

Some of the children had had surgeries to correct their null point and dampen their nystagmus while others had not.  Some kids and parents felt that there was some improvement but overall nothing significant.  A lot of the kids who had surgeries to correct their null points had to have multiple surgeries.  And some kids eye movement was more noticeable than others.  Justin did hear that a lot of the kids nystagmus did dampen with time regardless of having surgery or not having surgery.  He also heard that a lot of the kids who had light sensitivity said that it got better over time.  Although many of the children’s experiences are similar (especially more so in the social area), I would say that each child’s experience is different (again medically, socially, emotionally).  Medically, Justin and I think the next logical step in the process is to take Avery to see Dr. Hertle, likely sometime in late Fall/early Winter.  We’re not sure at this time if we would have him do the surgery or not; however, we do think it is important to get his viewpoint on Avery’s particular case.  With regards to the social and emotional aspect, we’ll be constantly addressing them with Avery and others throughout her life and while it won’t be easy at times, I know we can handle it and I know Avery is going to be perfectly fine. Statistic say that 1 in 3000 persons have nystagmus, which is somewhat hard to believe considering I have never met anyone else with nystagmus and I had never heard of it before, and I would say that probably is the case for most.  Anyway, I do think that our family will attend future conferences as nystagmus not only affects Avery but our whole family and we are in this together as a family.

Justin took a bunch of good notes at the conference and I was going to include some of them, but after reviewing them I decided that it was more important to note here that we should go back and read not only Justin’s notes but the few material hand outs a few times a year so that we continually make sure we are putting them to practical use.  Note to self: the notes are in Avery’s medical binder notebook. 

First Dentist Visit!

Today the girls had their first dentist appt.  Here we are on our way to the dentist!

Here we are playing in the wait area at the dentist!

Here we are in the dentist chair! 

It wasn’t so bad….I think the girls will be excited for their next appointment in 6 months!

Baltimore Vacation

Our nanny Ana was off for two weeks starting June 24.  My mom watched the girls an extra day each week and Justin and I took off three days the first week and took the girls to Baltimore for a mini vacation.  Since we were already taking off, we wanted to go somewhere but being as far along as I was in the pregnancy, we didn’t want to go too far.  My dad’s friend owns a condo in Baltimore that he generously let us stay at twice a few years ago and he generously let us stay there again for three nights this time with the girls.  Even though we weren’t going away for very long and we weren’t very far, our car was still packed!  We certainly don’t travel lightly these days.

We arrived at the condo around lunch time Wednesday.  We didn’t have a real goal for Wednesday other than settling in which included unpacking and going to the grocery store.  When we first got there we quickly realized that while the place was overall “child friendly” in that there weren’t a lot of breakable items, we couldn’t take an eye of the girls for even a second.  It was the little things….the metal coming off the kitchen chairs on wheels, the cleaning supplies in the unlocked kitchen cabinets, or the front door without a deadbolt allowing the girls to let themselves out of the apartment. We chuckled at the same time we cried internally!  The picture below is a nighttime view from the condo. 

Wednesday evening we took the girls to a Mexican restaurant in Federal Hill.  The menu looked amazing and while the food wasn’t bad, it didn’t meet my expectations.  I think I was expecting some awesome Mexican food like what I would find in NY City based on the menu.  It was reasonably priced and it wasn’t bad, just not great.  The girls had a good time.  Avery LOVED the black beans and she ate them with her hands which created a huge mess, but all we could do was laugh.  Justin took a few pictures unfortunately they didn’t really capture just how messy she was.

Emerson on the other hand LOVED the chips.  She is such a dipper too.  They had three types of salsa and she had to dip just like Mommy and Daddy.  Hey, whatever keeps them entertained at a restaurant! 

Thursday morning we headed to the aquarium.  It cost $35 per person to get in; thank goodness the girls were under 2 and got in free.  We didn’t take the stroller because they weren’t allowed.  Emerson was fairly lazy much of the time we were there and wanted Justin to hold her quite a bit (or sit on the ground).

Avery was a bit more adventurous and enjoyed climbing up to see the exhibits. 

At one point, Justin cut his finger and went to the bathroom to go clean it.  There was a little overlook of the harbor that was like a break room on each floor so me and the girls waited in there for Justin.  At one point Emerson started running away so I went to catch her and when I looked back at Avery she had gone from sitting by the window to standing up and hanging from the railing!  She is such my little daredevil…no fear whatsoever! 

During the rainforest exhibit there were some sort of cockroaches that two volunteers were holding and allowing people to touch.  Emerson wanted no part of it, but Avery went to reach for it.  I was holding Avery at the time and it scared the bejeezes out of me!  I screamed loud enough to scare her from continuing to touch it and for that I felt badly.

The girls were starting to get tired after a few hours so we stopped in the cafeteria and they sat down to have their snacks of raisons and agua.  We snapped a few pictures to capture the moment.

After snack time, we made our way to two interactive children’s exhibits and the girls had fun playing.

Next we made our way to the Dolphin show.  The show was relatively short and we arrived just before it started with the hope the girls would sit still long enough to see it.  Fortunately with the aid of pretzel sticks, the girls sat “still” enough for us to catch the show. 

When the Dolphin show was over, while we hadn’t seen every single exhibit (I think we missed the sting rays and the Australian Exhibit) we had been there 2 ½ hours and the girls couldn’t take a whole lot more.  Philips Seafood was right next door so we took the girls there for lunch.  After lunch, we walked back to the car where we headed back to the condo and put the girls down for a late afternoon nap. 

They had fallen asleep pretty immediately after getting in the car and they awoke by the time we got them up the elevator to the 23rd floor, so the afternoon nap went horribly!  Since we went out for a late lunch, we decided not to go out for dinner and eat some of the food we bought the day before at Harris Teeter for dinner. The girls had a normal dinner; Justin and mine’s dinner left much to be desired.  Since we stayed in that night we had plenty of time to give the girls a bath in the big tub.  It was so big that they really couldn’t go in it themselves, so Justin (with bathing suit onJ) went in with the girls.  I tried to capture a few pictures but my photography skills are pretty pitiful sometimes and I didn’t capture a single decent picture.

Friday morning we took the girls to The Children’s Museum.  We had originally planned on going to Annapolis for the day but we realized that the girls would have much more fun doing something that was interactive.  It was awesome.  There were several exhibits / rooms that were appropriate for their age.  We basically spent our time in three rooms.  The first was the Tot Trails Room where the girls explored mazes, funneled sand, played with lightboxes, and participated in story time “Mother Goose on The Loose”.  Emerson true to form sat on Justin’s lap most of storytime/songtime taking it all in while Avery sat on my lap for only a few minutes before getting up and exploring yet still listening to what was going on. 

After about an hour in that room, we made our way to Tiny Diner, which was this awesome little diner for kids. The girls had a great time in that room! 

Next we went to the Oasis room which was more of a “quiet” room meaning there were TONS of books, stuffed animals for lounging against, and a good amount of learning toys as well. 

The girls had fun exploring this room as well while mommy and daddy took turns testing out the comfort of the lounging stuffed animals. By the time we left this room, the girls were starting to get tired.  As much as we wanted to stay, we figured it was best to head out as the prior two days their naps went horribly wrong because they were overtired.  Our tickets were valid for the day so I had been hoping that if it worked out, we could swing bye again for the last hour before it closed before dinner time if we could find a street parking spot. Turns out the girls nap went well this day, which we were grateful for because Justin and I actually napped this day as well; however, the timing didn’t allow for us to make it back before closing time. 

This was our last night here and we decided to go to Little Italy for dinner.  We went to this place called Amici’s recommended by my dad and his friend.  My expectations weren’t that high from looking at the menu but we decided to try it anyway because there weren’t that many restaurants that appeared to be kid friendly and it was about $6 cheaper per entrée than most the other restaurants in Little Italy.  There are not many restaurants that Justin and I go to where we say we would go back, but this was one of them!  It by far exceeded expectations.  Justin and I split a house salad topped with fried calamari.  He had the chicken parm and I had the chicken parm/eggplant parm combo.  We both thought it was delicious!  For the girls, I ordered plain pasta and a side of peas as I figured they would be eating bread, their raisons and they would be trying our food as they wanted.  They devoured the pasta and peas and their raisins.  Avery even ate some bites of my chicken while Emerson had her first taste of spaghetti with sauce…she LOVED it as did her clothes!  Emerson was so stuffed that she didn’t have the energy to walk to the car afterwards and wanted Daddy to hold her.  Avery thankfully walked most the way back because Mommy didn’t have the energy to carry her the whole way.

While in the condo over the course of the three days the girls had fun playing with one another.  It is really neat to see them truly start to play (and fightL) with one another. 

We enjoyed our mini vacation but I can’t exactly say that it was relaxing.  It is only going to get crazier with three kids but I’m hoping my lack of energy is truly related to being 8 months pregnant and that the older the girls get, the easier and more relaxing vacations will be.

Pool Time!

We took the girls in the big pool for the first time a few weeks ago. They were a little hesitant at first but by the time we came out of the pool, Emerson loved it.  It took Avery about two times in the pool before she felt the same way.  I bought them little vests to wear and goggles.  They are good about wearing their vests and the vests certainly help keep them afloat; however, they still have to be held or on a float with an adult the entire time in the pool.  Avery is better about wearing her goggles than Emerson although she tends to wear the goggles more outside of the pool than inside. 

We also got them a new little pool this year.  We tried the mushroom pool that they used a whopping one time last year and once they got in it, we could see that they clearly had outgrown it.  Their new kiddie pool is bigger and doesn’t have a cover so it is less restrictive.  The girls like filling their cups with water and pouring the water on the chairs,  adults, or any other object outside the pool.